Most parents will be able to hear their kids’ voices in this familiar phrase; “But why Dad? Why Mom?” There are times when we find it endearing and, if we are honest, times when we find it frustrating. Most of you, even as you are reading this will have heard these very words already today. Ah! The life of a parent with young kids.
My own children are 3rd and 6th graders and over the last 5 years I have been asked questions about a range of different subjects. From historical European battles to current ISIS events; from Adam’s original sin to the opening of the 7 seals in Revelation. I have had to be ready to give an answer to all my kids’ questions. Of course, these usually come in the middle of a soccer game that’s on television or in the middle of a delicious steak plate. Their questions have impeccable timing.
As they have grown I have noticed that in the hectic schedule we parents often keep, these moments are too easy to pass over with a quick answer or even a quick dismissal of the question. This does not serve our children; instead it can actually stunt their growth in knowledge. I am always careful to be diligent in both the quality and quantity of time spent with my kids, but I noticed this area of answering their questions can quite easily slip through the cracks. I am learning to be more deliberate in these moments.
No question is too small; no question is too silly. It is vitally important that our kids feel comfortable enough to ask us anything. Of course, a household that thrives in good, open, and Godly communication provides a solid base for questions to arise. Just as a home that does not communicate well will not reap the benefits of kids coming to parents with life’s difficult questions.
Allow the questions to flow, do not be scared of them. In entertaining and answering these questions, we are equipping our children with knowledge that they may not get anywhere else. And it protects them from something even more detrimental—erroneous information that they believe to be true from others. A child asking their peers for information is not always the best way to gain the truth that they seek. But make no mistake, if we don’t allow them to ask us questions, they WILL ask their peers.
Take time, be brave, and let the questions come….
**This was a guest blog post from the Undeterred Blog. To see more excellent posts on raising kids to be strong in the Word of God, visit; Undeterred